Reading materials
Whole Brain Child. The WBC is highly recommended. It is easy to read, has just 12 simple strategies, and offers good examples. Co-author Dr. Dan Siegel has written many heavily science-books for professionals, which incorporate attachment science and neuroscience, and has condense his knowledge into a simple format for parents. There are some companion books in the WBC series. Highly recommended and very popular on Amazon.
Peace Discipline is a website run by Karen Quail who offers a free Toolkit of discipline techniques which utilize positive and healthy discipline instead of corporal or coercive discipline. The Toolkit was developed from a 5-year research study and offers the most comprehensive list of discipline techniques. Karen Quail also has a collection of Peace Discipline YouTube videos demonstrating Toolkit techniques. (She may have more videos on her website.) The Peace Discipline model is practical, effective, and based on high quality research. Highly recommended.
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Also by Dr. Dan Siegel. Explains how the teenage brain experiences exuberance and pruning, the massive growth of new brain wiring and then the die-off of unused wires later in adolescence, and offers tips for helping teens maintain optimal wiring for adulthood.
Mind in The Making. Author Ellen Galinsky. MITM is longer and more complex that WBC, but offers a richer set of suggestions for parents, and frames the main parenting issues up into a nice list of 7 key skills that parents can develop in their children. The seven skills are listed in another post on Mr. Baumann’s website.
Between Parent and Child, and Between Parent and Teenager. This book is also highly recommended. Originally published in 1965 (and re-published in 2003), this is a long-time best selling parenting book. This book is easy to read with excellent examples. Although written before attachment theory was well developed, Ginott intuitively understood children’s attachment system needs. Between Parent and Child is available at Amazon, and is also available free. Between Parent and Teenager may be available for free (try searching for it), or at Amazon.
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation. This book is not based directly on attachment, but offers an excellent guide to promoting respectful children.
Targeted Integrating Parent Strategies (TIPS)TM. These involve identifying a child’s general attachment pattern and targeting parenting strategies to specifically fit the child’s attachment needs. TIPS sheets are available to clients of Mark K. Baumann.
Raising Parents: Attachment, Representation, and Treatment. Author Patricia Crittenden is a world leader in attachment theory. This book is the best attachment-based book available for parenting, but it is not for the faint-hearted, and is geared for a professional audience (although it not as formal as some of her other works). This book is exceptionally relevant for foster parents and foster system professionals. Parents reading this book are encouraged to work with a therapist, coach, or other parenting professional.
Integrative Parenting. This book is particularly useful if you are working with a therapist who can use EMDR. The book is firmly grounded in the ABC+D theory of attachment, so like most attachment-parenting books, it is great for an overall view of attachment, but does not provide insight into general attachment parenting techniques. (Please send us feedback about your experience with this book.)
Raising a Thinking Child Workbook: Teaching Young Children How to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others. A nice workbook to help your child build cognitive and social-emotional skills.
Washington law which defines parenting functions is summarized here.
Citations and additional print resources
Crittenden, Patricia M., (2015, 2nd ed.), Raising Parents: Attachment, Representation, and Treatment, Routledge.
Galinsky, Ellen, (2010), Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Life Skills Every Child Needs, William Morrow.
Ginott, Haim, (1965, revised and updated, 2003), Between parent and child, Three Rivers Press.
Hart, S. & Kindle Hodson, V. (2006), Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation, Puddledancer Press.
Moore, Deborah, (undated) Discipline with an Adoption Twist, www.EMKPress.com http://www.emkpress.com/pdffiles/disciplinesw.pdf.
Quail, K. R., & Ward, C. L. (2020). Nonviolent Discipline Options for Caregivers and
Teachers: A Systematic Overview of the Evidence. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, DOI: 10.1177/1524838020967340
Siegel, Daniel J. & Payne-Bryson, Tina, (2011), The whole brain child: 12 revolutionary strategies to nurture your child’s developing mind, Delacorte Press.
Siegel, Daniel J. & Payne-Bryson, Tina, (2011), The Whole-Brain Child Workbook: Practical Exercises, Worksheets and Activities to Nurture Developing Minds, PESI Publishing.
Siegel, Daniel J. & Payne-Bryson, Tina, (2014), No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Bantam.
Siegel, Daniel J., (2012), Pocket guide to interpersonal neurobiology: An Integrative Handbook of the Mind. New York: W.W. Norton.
Siegel, Daniel J., (2014), Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, Tarcher.
Wesselmann, Schweitzer & Armstrong, (2014a), Integrative Parenting: Strategies for Raising Children Affected by Attachment Trauma. W.W. Norton & Company.
Wesselmann, Schweitzer & Armstrong, (2014b), Integrative Team Treatment for Attachment Trauma in Children: Family Therapy and EMDR, W.W. Norton & Company.
Local Resources
First Step Family Support Center
Other resources
Attachment-based parenting: https://markbaumann.com/2016/12/01/attachment-based-parenting/
Pinterest Page: https://www.pinterest.com/markbaumann/attachment-parenting/
Science of Parenting News: http://www.icc.institute/services-and-training/tips-coaching
Mind in the Making: https://markbaumann.com/client-resources/mitm-mini-messages/