Attachment theory provides powerful information about parenting and parenting-time schedules. Although most of the research into attachment is focused on mothers, there is powerful evidence to indicate that fathers are just as important to raising healthy children. In any individual case, it may be that the father is just as nurturing as the mother, more […]
Skill 5 – Critical Thinking. At its core, critical thinking is the ongoing search for valid and reliable knowledge to guide beliefs, decisions, and actions. TIP: Promote children’s curiosity: if they are wondering about something, help think of an experience where they can figure it out for themselves (such as why do different things float […]
Skill #4 – Making Connections: The Arts and the Brain. Learning about how the Arts affects cognitive life: 1. Through an increase in focused attention 2. Promotes an increase in motivation (p.184) 3. “When children have training in the arts, they learn to pay attention, to stay focused and to resist distraction, noting that these skills […]
Skill 3 – Communicating: Why these three –parent speak, look, gesture– matter. (p.112) They form the foundation of children’s skill in communicating. The way we talk, the expressions on our faces and in our eyes, what we look at, even our gestures are the basis upon which learning to communicate is built. We have to […]
Skill #2 – Perspective Taking: Understanding others point of view Perspective taking involves the intellectual skills of: Discerning how someone else thinks and feels; Assembling our accumulated knowledge of that person; Analyzing the situation at hand; Remembering similar situations; Recalling what others have told us about such situations; and Trying to feel and think as […]
Skill 1 – Focus and Self Control. Cognitive Flexibility: is at work when you understand a problem from your own and another’s differing points of view (perspective) – being able to flexibly switch perspectives or the focus of attention, and flexibly adjust to changed demands or priorities.
Chapter 7 – Self-directed, Engaged Learning. Principle 1: Establish a trustworthy relationship with your child. We are role models for our children starting from early infancy. They want to be like us. This has important implications for parenting, emotional development, and early education. (P.301) This is important because it: Keeps children safe. If children are […]
Chapter 6 – Taking on Challenges: Resilience and the impact of stress factors: (p. 252) 1. The nature of the stress 2. How long the stress lasts 3. How stressful experiences are conveyed (parents are important!). 4. Research tells us that we should be more intentional about what we want to convey, because children do […]
Chapter 4 – Making Connections. Action 1: Give children lots of opportunities to see connections – in fun and playful ways. We promote learning on the deepest level when we tap into children’s passion and enthusiasm and build on it.
Chapter 1 – Focus and Self Control. FOCUS: is being able to position attention in the right direction to achieve what one wants to achieve – being able to concentrate – for long periods of time – ignore distractions.
The percent of teenage drinking in Iceland plummeted from 45% to 5% between 1998 and 2016 by the use of a system wide focus addressing the real problem. One key component was the government giving all parents several hundred dollars in credits to spend on extracurricular activities like Sports, Nature, Arts, Culture, Clubs, Music, and […]
Attachment-Based Parenting involves using principles of attachment theory to guide parenting. The science of attachment is a little complicated, but applying it to parenting is a snap if you know a few basic things about attachment. One easy way to start learning about attachment-based parenting is to take a look at the pins on Mark’s […]
Attachment Parenting is a fairly new concept that is gaining ground and here are some recommended attachment-based parenting books. A longer bibliography is below the recommended reading. Whole Brain Child. The WBC is highly recommended. It is easy to read, has just 12 simple strategies, and offers good examples. Co-author Dr. Dan Siegel has written […]
When people communicate with us in a hostile, angry, dismissive, or chaotic manner, it can be hard to hold healthy boundaries and it is easy to respond in a way that escalates the problem. Here are some suggestions for how to respond in ways that might reduce everyone’s anger and frustrations. First, do your best to […]
In a divorce, most people understand that the relationship their child(ren) had with each parent will be changing. It doesn’t matter how the parenting time schedule is organized, your child will suffer some amount of loss of (and trauma from) the changed relationship with his/her mom and dad. But more than that, your child will […]